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How to Use Your Hands to Seduce Your Partner

There are countless ways to seduce your partner and experiment during sex. You could explore new positions, engage in role-play, experiment with locations, use sex toys, and explore different techniques. Most people assume getting creative during seduction and sex involves using complex techniques, outfits, toys, and materials. But thats simply not true — there are plenty of ways to get creative and seduce your partner with nothing but your hands.

In fact, one might go so far as to say that hands are the most underrated tools of seduction in your arsenal. You can use your hands in numerous creative ways during sex to enhance your activities and unearth new bodily sensations you didnt know existed. Hands are incredibly versatile, and the combination of multiple fingers provides flexibility when exploring new sensations.

The skin has thousands of nerve endings, making it the best sex organ

Using hands to touch and explore your partner also brings you closer together, forcing you to be present at the moment. The skin has thousands of nerve endings, making it the best sex organ, and hands are ideal for exploring every inch. When you combine the dexterity of your hands with the skins tangible pleasures, you can set off fireworks in your partner. Below, we explore all the different ways to use hands to seduce your partner.

Explore your partner’s erogenous zones

Everyone has erogenous zones in their bodies that shouldn’t be ignored during sex. Erogenous zones are parts of the body with a high volume of nerve endings, which makes them unique pleasure centers. However, the erogenous zones are slightly different for different people, so it’s worth taking your time to learn about your partner’s erogenous zones.

If you rush into penetrative or genital-focused sex, you ignore the wonders possible with your erogenous zones. Take the time to touch them on their lips, neck, ears, underarms, nipples, and all other body parts. Explore every inch of their bodies as if you’re exploring new and uncharted terrains.

While moving your hands and fingers around their body, focus on their reactions. Whether theyre vocally communicative or not, you can learn a lot about how they feel by the catching of their breath, the way they move, and other bodily signals. Some people also have extremely sensitive nipples, so you may or may not want to focus on them based on their preferences.

Guide your partner’s actions

While it’s important to explore your partner’s erogenous zones, it’s just as important that they explore yours. The best way to ensure that is to guide your partner in the right direction. During foreplay, hold their hands and guide them towards the regions you want them to touch. This can be your nipples, clitoris, underarms, cheeks, ears, inner thighs, or anywhere else.

Taking charge is an extremely sexy way to ensure your partner meets your desires. It also allows you to better understand your body and how you like being touched. Using your hands to guide your partner can also project extreme confidence, which is always sexy. So the next time youre not entirely happy with what your partner is doing, use your hands and guide the way.

Masturbate and stimulate yourself

Seducing your partner doesnt necessarily mean you have to touch them at all times. You can also seduce your partner with some self-love. Take a brief break while having sex to masturbate in front of your partner. If they try to reach for you, hold out your hands to stop them. The resistance and display can be immensely satisfying. Watching how you like being touched will also be instructional for your partner.

Grab your partner’s ass

Whether you’re with a male or female partner, grabbing their ass can be incredibly sexy. The butt cheeks aren’t exactly erogenous zones, but the sensation of grabbing a partner’s ass and pulling them close can be sexy in and of itself. It also brings you closer together, physically. And if you’re having intercourse, it can make them thrust deeper inside.

Anal play is for everyone

Thankfully, were living in an age where anal play is (mostly) destigmatized. Anal play isnt just for queer individuals, its something that everyone can enjoy, and yes, that includes cis-heterosexual men. However your partner might identify, gently tracking circles around their anus with your finger can be immensely pleasurable.

The anus is one of the body’s primary pleasure centers, complete with hundreds of potent nerve endings. If your partner isn’t ready for anal penetration, you can simply explore the outsides of their anus. You can also rub some lubricant on your fingers and trace circles, probing into gently to test how they feel.

Getting used to anal play takes time, so your partner might not be willing immediately. However, over time, if they start enjoying anal play more, you can make your fingers slide in gently, exploring them from within. And maybe you can also ask your partner for reciprocation! Anal play is truly one of the best uses for your hands and fingers.

Bring out the toys

These days, you can find a lot of sex toys that work without hands. But active guiding a sex toy to pleasure and seduce your partner can add new layers of intimacy into your sexual experience. You can find numerous types of sex toys, such as vibrators, clitoral stimulators, dildos, and clitoral suction vibrators. Explore different types of sex toys in different parts of your partner’s body to explore what they like.

How about giving our new Evii a go? It's a small clitoral vibrator that comes with dual motors and its own magnetic charging tray that doubles as a place to hold your jewelry.

Evii Clitoral Vibrator

Restrain your hands with some bondage

You know how we said hands are incredibly versatile? Well, they’re so versatile that they can deliver immense pleasure even when they’re tied up! You can ask your partner to tie your hands behind your back, together, or to the bedpost, as long as it’s comfortable for you. Once your hands are restrained, you can ask your partner to take charge, which can be incredibly sexy.

As we said before, your hands are versatile… use them.

About Author
Ellie Cooper
Ellie is a freelance writer and pleasure enthusiast. She is very comfortable talking about vaginas, scaling mountains and eating spicy food, but not parallel parking. She lives with a very tubby cat named Charles who likes to get involved with the writing process by sleeping on her keyboard.
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